Excerpts from life lessons

 LOVE

Love is not an activity or process that should be done in a specific way. Rather it is a state of mind in which a person abandons all his desires, resolutions, concerns, fears, and accept someone unconditionally (with all qualities, demerits, and physical appearance), and lives his life as a devotee while performing all duties.

Love is state of mind, in which we don't experience fear, worries, or desires. Love makes us responsible, emphatic, and devotional. Because it's not driven by desires, love bring happiness in moments and stay forever within us.

When a person loves another person unconditionally and unexpectedly, then that person will equally admire all colours of their personality. Because in love, people experience only love from their all senses, mind, and intellectuals. Love makes people peaceful, cheerful, and a wonderful human being.

When people learn to perform their duties without expectation and condition, then they experience love all around them. That's the universal principle of Karma, which is also explained by Buddha and Krishna.

LOVE AND INFATUATION

Love is surrender while infatuation is authorisation. Love frees us from bondage while infatuation itself is a bond. The heart of the lover is always free, worryless, calm and fearless, while the heart of a fascinated person is always surrounded by fear, anxieties, desires and fear. Lovers are not affected by mutual distance or any kind of difference, even if the lover is in a remote province or is not alive, they always experience mutual presence. However, fascinated people are unable to tolerate mutual distance even for a single moment, so always try to stay together. Lovers bear mutual trust while captivated persons remain suspicious. Infatuation originates from selfishness, while love arises from selfless renunciation.

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प्रेम और मोह : प्रेम ही समर्पण है जबकि मोह अधिकारभाव हैं। प्रेम हमें बंधन मुक्त करता है जबकि मोह स्वयं एक बंधन है। प्रेमी का ह्रदय हमेशा इक्षामुक्त, चिंतामुक्त, शांत तथा निर्भय रहता है जबकि मोहित व्यक्ति का ह्रदय सदा ही चिंताओं, व्यथाओं, इक्छाओ से घिरा हुआ एवं भयभीत रहता है। प्रेमियों को आपसी दूरियां या किसी भी तरह के अंतर का भान नहीं रहता है चाहे प्रेमी किसी सुदूर प्रांत में हो या वो जीवित भी ना हो, उन्हें आपसी उपस्थिति का अनुभव हमेशा होता रहता है। हालांकि मोहित व्यक्ति एक छण के लिये भी आपसी दूरी बर्दाश्त नहीं कर पाते है इसीलिए हमेशा एकसाथ रहने का प्रयास करते रहते हैं। प्रेमी आपसी विश्वास को धारण करते है जबकि मोहित व्यक्ति संदेहीत रहते हैं। मोह कि उत्पत्ति स्वार्थ से होती है जबकि प्रेम निस्वार्थ त्यागभाव से उत्पन्न होता हैं।

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LOVE RELATIONSHIP

An association of people who accept each other unconditionally, and experience their own presence in other. Like water and sugar. Such as water and sugar. When water accepts sugar with its sweetness and hardness. And Sugar also accept water with its amorphousness and tastelessness. Then, their union together gives rise to a new experience which we identify as the name of sorbet (syrup). In this sorbet (syrup), both the qualities of water and sugar (ie, amorphousness and sweetness) are present but their demerits (ie hardness and tastelessness) are completely destroyed.

Similarly, in love relationships people lose their demerits by acquiring each other's qualities. And human experiences mutual understanding, respect, care, loyalty, equality, freedom, trust, longevity and peace of mind. Friend, family are the example of such relations.

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लोगों का एक संघ जो बिना शर्त एक दूसरे को स्वीकार करते हैं और दूसरे में अपनी उपस्थिति का अनुभव करते हैं। जैसे पानी और चीनी। जब पानी, चीनी को उसकी मिठास और कठोरता के साथ स्वीकार करता है। और चीनी भी पानी को उसकी आकारहीनता और बेस्वादता के साथ स्वीकार करती हैं। तब, संयुक्त रूप से उनका मिलाप एक नये अनुभव को जन्म देता है जिसे हम शरबत (सिरप) के नाम से पहचानते है। इस शरबत (सिरप) में पानी  और चीनी दोनों के गुण (यानि आकारहीनता तथा मिठास) तो उपस्थित रहते हैं लेकिन उनके अवगुणों (यानि कठोरता और बेस्वादता) का समूल नाश हो जाता हैं।

 

इसी तरह, प्रेम संबंधों में लोग एक दूसरे के गुणों को प्राप्त करके अपने अवगुणों को खो देते हैं। और मानव आपसी समझ, सम्मान, देखभाल, निष्ठा, समानता, स्वतंत्रता, विश्वास, दीर्घायु और मन की शांति का अनुभव करता है। मित्र, परिवार ऐसे संबंधों का उदाहरण हैं।

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DESIRE-DRIVEN RELATIONSHIP

An association of people who felt (and get) attracted towards each other to fulfill their individual desires. As per human needs these desires could be categorised as: mental (loneliness, past setbacks, emotional), physical, economical, intellectual, social, or spiritual. In such a relationship the human is made to feel that he has been loved, accepted, taken care of their needs, and has rights. The age of such relations are directly proportional to the individual's ability to fulfill each other desires. Most of the time people experience excitement, attachment, anxiety, doubts, and fear in such relationships. And when these relationships end, people feel lost, broken and betrayed. Materialistic pleasures such as Business, Value driven activity partners are the few example of such relations.

DUTY

The work done by identifying oneself as a personality in which man neither desires result nor is affected by the ease or difficulty of work.

FAMILY

A family is a group of people who accept you with all flaws and virtues, respect your perspective, give you a personal space to progress in life, and support you in the ups and downs of your life.

But the group of people who are bound in social or blood relations with a desire to fulfill their interests cannot be known as family.

FRIENDS

Unlike other relationship, Friends accept you unconditionally, it's driven by mutual understanding and respect, and made people accountable.

PEOPLE SAY A LOT OF THINGS BUT MEANS ONLY A FEW

The difference between people's words and their actions, represent their fear of unfulfilled desires. Everything in this outer universe is temporary, and peoples know that. That's why when people seek happiness (or things/act that drives happiness) in outer universe, they put all efforts (words/act) to grab and retain that pleasure. When they didn't feel that happiness anymore, or see it under risks, then they tends to remove all hurdles (including their words, action, and even believes) to restore their happiness. That's why people's words never aligned with their actions.

MOVING ON

Everyone enters or leaves our life for the purpose of teaching us something or the other. Which helps us determine what we really want in our life and what not. Though it hurts badly, but only through similar experiences do we come to know the truth of life, we learn and try to avoid such mistakes again. Such experiences make us aware of who we really are and by focusing on where in life we can continuously experience blissful moments. Well this is the life, let it be like that. I always learn from life's experiences, and forget all those people and their behavior, because of which I felt the bitterness of life. With this practice, not only do I get better quickly but I can easily focus on my happiness and peace.

To feel fresh and energetic, practice this daily:-

1. Forgive yourself for all past experiences.
2. Forgive everyone who caused that experience.
3. Remember how you went through those moments, remember your strength, remember why you did not give up.
4. Now remember all the happy moments of your life. Remember how cheerful and fearless you are.
5. Now try to know with an unbiased view why the incident happened to you? Like you are watching a movie scene.
6. Now forgive everyone and forget everything. Just remember this lesson, your strength and your delightful moments.

Fearlessly whatever you experience in your delightful moments is the real you.

You are a human being before any social identity. That is why, like every human, you also have every right to enjoy and experience every way of life. And in no way do you need the approval or support of any other person to lead your life in this way. You are self sufficient and you also have enough resources to make this life. What is received is sufficient. In the life so far, you have covered a long distance and have performed very well. Now we have to go even further and perform even better.

P.S. Never lose your goodness for someone else's bad behavior. Because our good behavior defines us and their bad behavior reveals their reality. Never forget that your goodness is not your weakness but your strength, which has made you fit to face this difficult situation and helped you get out of this situation.

STARTING SOMETHING NEW

Whenever we try to do something new in our lives, we found thyself in the mist of doubts and fear. However, with a strategic plan (of what, where and how to do), by self-observation of our capabilities, knowledge and resources, we can reduce this mist and take our first steps towards this new beginning.

The light of our self-belief guides us to see through ambiguity and motivates us to remain focused. Hence, when we try do something new with firm self-belief, we not only enjoy that journey (due to absence of fears and doubts) but also become more conscious and focused towards efficient utilisation of our capabilities and resources.

Therefore, self-confidence is our best partner who not only guides us but also walks with us in every ups and downs of life.

THE RIGHT PERSON

Humans love only thyself. When we experience our own existence (or values) in something else (it could be person, place, or activity), we feel attracted towards that thing, and put all efforts to chase, grab, and retain it. Due to our upbirthing norms and society's where we were born, live, and grow, we recognise ourself as body, social identity, behaviour, and have learnt to use everything around us as a medium to experience thyself (someone who accept us with all flaws & virtues, understand us, never leaves us, motivate and protect us, and in who's company we experience peace, fearlessness, and eternal love). Yes, we are what we are looking for everywhere. Only we are that right person.

TREES

Trees are courageous philanthropists who live their entire lives by dedicating themselves to the worlds welfare while bearing the life's hurdel alone. Respecting them is an honor to mankind, and learning their beautiful way of living is a blessing.

RIVER

I have learned from the river that when we flow (i.e. live) downward (i.e. egolesslly) with firm believe, accepting and admiring everything at every moment, not only does everyone find us beautiful, but we also find ourselves in the lap of the ocean (i.e. bliss or the life's fulfillment).

APATHY

A situation in which a person renounces both the world and worldliness by his mind, words and deeds. And only by fulfilling trivial needs (eg food, clothes), be autistic, live in peace and live happily. Such a person is devoted to spiritual knowledge, bliss or God, he focuses on them only. Disinterestedness, selfless renunciation arise in the creature due to awakening.

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वैराग्य : एक ऐसी स्थिति जिसमें इंसान संसार एवं सांसारिकता (देहाभिमान), दोनो का - मन, वचन एवं कर्म से - त्याग कर देता है, तथा सिर्फ नगण्य आवश्यकताओ (जैसे भोजन, वस्त्र) की पूर्ति करते हुए, आत्मकेंद्रित हो, शांति एवं आनंद पूर्वक जीवन यापन करता है। ऐसा व्यक्ति आत्मिक ज्ञान, आनंद या ईश्वर के प्रति समर्पित हो, उन्हीं पर अपना ध्यान केंद्रित करता हैं। जीव में वैराग्यभाव, निस्वार्थ त्याग प्रवर्ति जागृत होने के कारण उत्पन्न होता हैं।

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LOVE AND APATHY

Due to selfless renunciation, love and detachedness(apathy) are only two sides of the same path. That is why the mindset and experience of a person are almost the same in both the stages. Probably for this reason Shiva is recluse and lover too.

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प्रेम तथा वैराग्य : निस्वार्थ त्यागभाव से उत्पन्न होने के कारण प्रेम तथा वैराग्य एक ही मार्ग के दो पहलू मात्र हैं। इसीलिए दोनों ही अवस्थाओ में व्यक्ति की मनोदशा एवं अनुभव लगभग एक जैसे ही होती हैं। शायद इसी कारण से शिव को वैरागी भी कहा गया हैं और प्रेमी भी।

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INDEPENDENCY

I see independency as an act of finding happiness within, it's about self-love, it's about making my own decisions and facing it's consequences, it's about my ability to see through the ambiguity of life, it's about staying positive and motivated during darkest hour of life, and it's about living happily and peacefully all the time.

Well to live happily we don't need anyone, we are capable enough to make and live our life the way we want. And it doesn't matter what other thinks. If we will try to create a life as per people's opinion then we wouldn't be able to feel happy, because none of these people are happy in their lives. Hence, we should have to focus on our happiness, freedom, and believes to articulate our life, every moment.

LIVING ALONE

Being single meant that I am more concious about my own happiness, freedom and peace, and I wouldn't sacrifice that for someone else's stupidity and fears. It's about experiencing the life unconditionally.

EXPRESSING OUR FEELINGS

In a desire driven relationship - people are afraid to express their feelings. Fear of not fulfilling desire is the root cause of our sorrows, fears and worries. Hence to learn expressing our feelings fearlessly, first one needs to identify which desire binding us and why ? When people love unexpectedly or unconditionally they don't wait for a second to express their feelings for people, places, or act. Love makes us accountable, honest, empathetic, courageous, and a wonderful human being.

MALE DOMINATED SOCIETY

Engaging in worldly pleasures is the basic principle of the male dominated society. And without any surprises it could be the basic principle of any specific mindset dominated society. 

The problem is not that we are physically, mentally and behaviorally different from each other, but our inability to experience the similarity between us. 

The problem is we have limited our existence within the limit of body, mind and intellect. 

The problem is that we love only those in whom we experience our own existence, although we don't love ourselves and don't feel our existence within. 

The root cause of all these problems are our ignorance towards our true reality as one existence. And this reality can be easily experiences by closely observing our daily activities, thoughts, dreams and desires. With counter-questioning, one can easily realise that our oneness inspires us to make relationship, it fuel our desires and ambitions, it motivates us to win, influence and control others lives.

प्रेम की अनुभूति ही जीवन को पूर्णता की तरफ ले जाती हैं [LOVE SENSATION LEADS TO THE PERFECTION OF LIFE]:-

आपसी समझ से एक-दूसरे के प्रति स्वीक्रति उत्पन्न होती हैं जिससे (ऐसे वातावरण में) विश्वास के अंकुर फूटते हैं। विश्वास के इसी वृक्ष पर निडरता और समर्पण के फूल खिलते हैं जो जीवन की हर दिशा (यानी अवस्था) को प्रेम की खुशबू से महकाते रहते हैं। वफ़ा इस वृक्ष की पत्तियाँ हैं,समानुभूती इसकी शाखाएँ हैं। इसी वृक्ष पर आनंद और शांति के फल लगते हैं जिनको ग्रहण करने से जीवन की पूर्णता प्राप्त हो जाती हैं।

इसी तरह जब हम किसी व्यक्ति (वस्तु,कार्य या स्थान) को स्वयं की प्रतिकृति के रूप में स्वीकार कर लेते हैं तब हमें उस व्यक्ति से भी प्रेम का अनुभव होने लगता हैं। माता-पिता का अपनी संतान के प्रति प्रेम इसी घटना का एक जीवंत उदाहरण हैं। किन्तु जब तक हम स्वयं का तथा अपने प्रियजनों का अनुभव सिर्फ शरीर (मन, बुद्धि) के रूप में ही करते रहते हैं तब तक हमें शरीरजनित विकारों एवं विचारों के प्रभाव के कारण सुख और दुःख रूपी क्षणिक अवस्थाओं के बीच प्रेम का अनुभव होता रहता हैं। इसी कारण प्राचीन मनीषियों ने - सबसे पहले स्वयं को इस शरीर से परे अद्भुत आनंदमयी चेतना के रूप में पहचानने, और फिर समस्त जीव समुदाय को स्वयं की प्रतिकृति ही समझकर प्रेम करने - के मार्ग का एकमुश्त समर्थन किया हैं। इस तरह हम शरीर जनित विकारों एवं विचारों से प्रभावित हुए बिना, निरंतर प्रेम,निडरता एवं शांति का अनुभव करते हुए जीवन का आनंद ले सकते हैं।

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Acceptance of each other arises from mutual understanding, causing (in such an environment) the sprouts of trust to erupt. Flowers of fearlessness and dedication bloom on this tree of faith, which keeps every direction (ie states) of life smelling with the fragrance of love. Faithfulness is the leaves of this tree and sympathy is its branches. On this tree, fruits of joy and peace grow, which when consumed provide the fullness of life.

In the same way, when we accept a person (object, work or place) as a replica of ourselves, then we start experiencing love from that person as well. The love of parents towards their children is a living example of this incident. But as long as we continue to experience ourselves and our loved ones only as the body (mind, intellect), then we continue to experience love between transient states of happiness and sorrow due to the effects of body-related disorders and thoughts. That is why the ancient mystics - firstly outright support the path of identifying oneself beyond this body as a wonderful blissful consciousness, and then loving the whole living community as a replica of thyself. In this way, we can enjoy life by constantly experiencing love, fearlessness and peace, without being affected by body-related disorders and thoughts.

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जीवन ,मृत्यु और मैं [LIFE, DEATH AND ME] :-

जब हम स्वयं को इस शरीर से परे अद्भुत आनंदमयी चेतना के रूप में अनुभव करते हैं उसी क्षण हमारे सभी भय, मोह, चिंताओं, शंकाओ एवं इक्क्षाओ का नाश हो जाता हैं। तब हम यह समझ जाते हैं कि ये समस्त सृष्टि उसी एक अद्भुत आनंदमयी चेतना में व्याप्त (तथा औत-प्रोत)हैं। नाना प्रकार के रूप एवं अनुभव वाली ये सृष्टि उसी आनंदमयी चेतना की अद्भुता को व्यक्त करती हैं। अतः अपने चारो ओर चैतन्य सा दिखाई देने वाला ये संसार, इसके जीव समुदाय एवं पारिस्थिकी तंत्र ये सभी उसी एक अद्भुत आनंदमयी चेतना की अनुभवजन्य अभिव्यक्ति मात्र हैं। मृत्यु एवं जीवन इस अनुभवजन्य अभिव्यक्ति की सिर्फ दो अवस्थाएं मात्र हैं। इसलिए आत्मिक दृष्टि से ना तो कोई जन्म लेता है और ना ही कोई मरता है बल्कि वो अनश्वर चेतना एक अवस्था (जीवन) से दूसरी अवस्था (मृत्यु) की तरफ गति करती हुई सी प्रतीत होती हैं। जैसे उम्र और वायु। उम्र भर शरीर की अधोगति एवं प्रगति होती रहती हैं फिर भी हमें सामान रूप से आनंद का अनुभव होता ही रहता हैं। समूर्ण पारिस्थिकी तंत्र में व्याप्त वायु हर जीव को सुलभता से प्राप्त हो जाती हैं।

जिस प्रकार चलचित्र में दिखाई देने वाले किसी पात्र की जीवन के उतार-चढ़ाव तथा मृत्यु, उसके दर्शकों की भावनाओं को कुछ समय के लिए प्रभावित तो करती हैं लेकिन वो उस किरदार को निभाने वाले अभिनेता की जीवनशैली या मृत्यु की सत्यता को नहीं दर्शाती हैं। चलचित्र ख़त्म हो जाने के बाद जब हमें, सभी किरदारों की जीवंतता एवं कुशलता का ज्ञान हो जाता हैं तब उसी समय हमारी भावनात्क अनुभूतियों का क्षरण होना शुरू हो जाता हैं। ठीक इसी प्रकार जब हम स्वयं को शरीर से परे अद्भुत आनंदमयी चेतना के रूप में पहचान जाते हैं तब हम अपने आस-पास होने वाली जन्म एवं मृत्यु की घटनाओं से अप्रभावित यानी मुक्त हो जाते हैं। 

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When we feel ourselves beyond this body as a amazing blissful consciousness, at that very moment all our fears, fascinations, worries, doubts and aspirations are destroyed. Then we come to understand that all this creation is pervaded and filled with that amazing blissful consciousness. This creation with many different forms and experiences expresses the wonder of the same blissful consciousness. Therefore, this visible world around you, its living community and ecological system are all just empirical manifestations of that amazing blissful consciousness. Death and life are just two stages of this empirical manifestation. Therefore, in spiritual terms, neither one is born nor one dies, but they seem to be moving from one state of consciousness (life) to another (death). Such as age and air. Downfall and progress of the body continues throughout the age, yet we continue to experience bliss in the same way. The air circulating in the entire ecological system is easily accessible to every organism.

Just as the ups and downs of life, and death of a character appearing in a movie affect the emotions of its audience for some time but they do not reflect the lifestyle or death of the actor playing that character. When we get to know the vibrancy and well-being of all the characters after the end of the movie, then at the same time our emotional feelings begin to erode. In the same way, when we identify ourselves as a wonderful blissful consciousness beyond the body, then we become unaffected by the events of birth and death happening around us.

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